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Moving On From Fights

I've noticed most people move on from fights in a way I find weird. Like they'll just seem to forget about it, and act like it never happened, without solving the problem. Others don't do this.

I had an idea about the difference in perspective.

Most people fight in an emotional way. Once the emotion fades, the issue is usually done for them. Sometimes the issue is unignorable and they can't do that, but they can ignore a lot, even if it's very unreasonable and self-destructive.

By contrast, I think some people look at problems more logically. So e.g. sleeping, or relaxing with the TV for 2 hours, doesn't change it.

This can lead to conflict. One person can no longer be emotional and want to act like a problem never happened. They don't want to revive bad emotions by focusing on that problem. And the other person can logically see the problem still exists and want to try to cooperatively solve it.


Elliot Temple on August 9, 2016

Comments (5)

Also when they are in a good mood they forget the bad in the person they had fights with.

Some force you to forget what happened. They will say "Why are you bringing this up now? I didn't do anything wrong right now"

FF at 7:55 PM on August 9, 2016 | #6433
> Some force you to forget what happened. They will say "Why are you bringing this up now? I didn't do anything wrong right now"

you don't know what "force" means. you should find out and use it correctly. it's an important word similar to "violence".

Anonymous at 7:58 PM on August 9, 2016 | #6434
Lets say someone broke my computer..

I will start arguing with that person.. I will ask an explanation for that behavior & what goes inside their brain while doing that and I will suggest options to solve that problem. They will make me explain a lot.. bring up too many topics and branches of topics and 3+4 hours get passed and the discussion dies!!

FF at 7:58 PM on August 9, 2016 | #6435
make (someone) do something against their will.
"she was forced into early retirement"

FF at 8:07 PM on August 9, 2016 | #6437
> They will say "Why are you bringing this up now? I didn't do anything wrong right now"

this doesn't *make* you. it's a request.

Anonymous at 8:23 PM on August 9, 2016 | #6438

What do you think?

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