“It’s difficult to have a committed relationship with two people. At some point, only one of them can be the most important person in your life. ‘Most important’ is one of those dreaded superlatives—two people can’t both be ‘most.’
-- this argument is idiotic. caring about two different people (yourself, someone else) doesn't imply people not getting what they want, doom, conflict, etc. nor does it with caring about two other ppl, three others, etc it's harder with more, but not impossible. the arg about who is most presupposes there must be a conflict where whoever is "most" wins. that's not true.