I can tell none of you have children.
Just because some people choose to keep their personal lives, and especially their children's personal lives, private, does not mean they do not have children.
As to Authority of Experience, it's not valid. The truth of a statement, depends only on it's content. If an idiot says something true, it's still true. If an "authority" says something false, it's still false. How do we tell which is which? Argument about the subject matter, not about the speakers.
I knew I was having a girl. I painted her room BLUE.
Sounds perfectly reasonable. I like off-white myself.
One of her many gifts was a Tonka truck. For five years, it was kicked around her room, ignored. Finally was given to her baby boy cousin, who knew exactly what to do with it. My daughter always sneered at it.
The whole point of being a subtle, powerful, devious, gender stereo-type meme, is that you can overcome blue paint, and a few trucks. In fact, many gender stereo-type memes are so highly evolved, that they still win out vs. parents who intentionally try to go against the stereotypes.
My daughter loves to laugh and jump and play and climb. But she is particularly concerned when someone gets hurt or knocked down or when someone tries to bully her. Call it personality.
I will, thank you.
Call it genes.
Genes code for various things, including perhaps the structure of one's brain. However, just like many computers made of different parts, behave the same way, so too do human brains despite structural differences.
But babies in general know from the start what they like. And girls tend to like dolls. And boys tend to like trucks.
This is an assertion that I'm wrong, but not an argument.
I was what you consider a tomboy. I was thoroughly disinterested in barbie dolls. When I got older though I did want to collect porcelain dolls...look but dont play with them. I always felt silly trying to feed milk to an inanimate object. But I have never considered myself anything less than feminine.
The gender stereotyping thesis does not say that every last person will act according to the stereotypes. It says they are subtly and not-so-subtly encouraged (and sometimes forced, coerced, ordered) to do it, by parents and others.
I should say what needs to be looked for is MERIT. there are some things women CANT do...and some things men cant do.
There are differences in physical body makeup, but needn't be any in personality. I agree employers and bosses should look for merit.