I know! Since I have hits I should post about parenting. For the good of The Children.
TCS (Taking Children Seriously) is the true parenting theory. Its primary ideas are:
- Fallibility (certain knowledge is impossible; people can be wrong)
- No Authorities (ideas must be judged on their merit, not their source; therefore, children can be right and can't be automatically dismissed)
- Coercion is the state of two or more personality strands being expressed in different options of a single choice so that one cannot see a way to choose without forsaking some part of his personality.
- Coercion is bad for knowledge growth, and quite simply hurts people, including children
- Common Preferences, coercion-free solutions to problems, are always possible
- This means, quite literally, that there is a possible way of parenting in which children do not do anything against their own will
- An important part of getting what one wants is changing what one wants to better desires, including more relisable ones
- Once we realise changing what we want to better wants is good, we no longer need fear always getting what we want as being spoiled or immoral -- as long as we improve our desires sufficiently it would only be good
- What people want is subject to morality, and thus children won't want horrible things, as long as parents offer sufficiently good moral theories
- Good ideas beat out bad ones in argument (and thus if parent's moral theories really are better than their rivals, parent won't lose argument)
- If your ideas are so great, have some faith in them to stand up to criticism!
- Criticism is good. Criticism is a gift. Cherish criticism
- Abandonment Parenting is morally wrong (parents have an obligation to help their children)
- Advice Advice Advice (parents should give children lots of advice, but children should be free to disagree)
- Don't Hurt Children (I can't say this enough)
- And most importantly: send all children to Hebrew School (joking)
Neat summary. Since a couple of your points are about reassurance, I'd add
"If it's important, they'll learn it"
(paraphrased, via IMFO)